Wedding tents can be a blessing in disguise and are designed to give you options that you thought were not possible…
You are about to embark on the planning and preparation of a wedding and my guess is that it will be a Spring/Summer wedding, and you are thinking about the idea of renting a wedding tent. The idea to host a wedding, or at least the reception in the garden, or on a beach, is an idea that appeals to many brides-to-be.
However, the more you have considered hosting your wedding outside, the more you will have realized that no matter how well you plan in advance for your wedding, the weather is something you simply cannot plan or control. Even in the summer there is always a good chance that it could rain, be windy or a little cooler than what was forecasted. These weather factors could put a strain on your day as you will be worrying what the weather has in store for you, and, if the worst should happen, the guests won’t like to be stuck outdoors in the rain or wind.
Renting a wedding tent is a perfect ‘Plan B’ option for several reasons:
• They are remarkably easy to erect and take down;
• You can choose the size and design to suit your occasion;
• You can decorate them to fit in with the theme of your wedding;
• Your guests can have the option to mingle inside or outside of the tent, depending on the weather;
• Your guests will be impressed with such an elegant structure and convenience;
• You can have your dream ‘outdoor’ wedding without the worry of the weather!
Wedding tents can come in all types of shapes and sizes to suit your individual needs and taste. For example, if you want to hold the whole reception outside, then you can opt for a large marquee type tent that can cover an entire dining room and dance floor included. Or, if you just wanted something small and eloquent to cover a buffet table, for example, then you could simply opt for a small awning.
Obviously the cost of renting wedding tents will vary enormously depending on the size you choose. Therefore it would pay you to shop around and do your research on various wedding tent rental stores to get the best value for your money. You can either do your research online or look in your local Yellow Pages directory to see what wedding tent stores are near you and if they include the price of erecting and taking down the tent for you.
If you are planning an outdoor wedding and are thinking of renting a wedding tent, then I am sure that your head is now buzzing with lots of ideas on what type of wedding tent is right for your occasion, how will you dress it, where exactly to place it in your garden, or favorite beach location. The ideas are endless as to what a great impact a simple wedding tent can do to save your outdoor wedding worries.
Claire Bowes is a successful Webmaster and publisher of http://www.1stweddingplanningguide.com She provides more wedding planning advice on Wedding Tents Rental that you can research without leaving your home.
Have you ever met someone who exudes “happy”? I’m not talking about
over-the-top-in-your-face-they-make-you-a-little-uncomfortable happy. Just
truly happy. You figure they must have been born that way, had things handed to
them on a silver platter, don’t need to work for a living …
When it comes to happy people, I have a theory. These are people who
know how to make specific choices regarding their thinking and behavior. They
know how to CONSCIOUSLY choose to think and act in ways that result in happiness,
and as a result, they are naturally fueled with energy, effortlessly.
Now, I must tell you that I spent a lot of time in my life displaying false
happiness, and it left me pretty drained and exhausted. I’ve also spent a lot of
time searching for peace and happiness (Hint: the answer isn’t in eating the “right”
food). I still focus everyday on operating from a place of peace and happiness.
From my own journey and discoveries I’m going to share with you 5 Ways to Happy
Energy.
Positive Perspective
This is about the choice to see things differently. It takes focus and
dedication. We are such creatures of habit, and not just in what we do but in how we
think (Ever get caught up in INSISTING that you are right?) By being willing to take a
different perspective, you are putting your loving adult self in charge and allowing
yourself to be open to the wonderful possibilities that life has to offer - you know,
the different stuff than what you’ve always done. Happy Energy people realize that
the way they think is the beginning of a process that leads to the way they live. By
thinking in positive ways, they move themselves to ACT in ways that bring about
their dreams and desires.
Kindheartedness
Happy Energy people choose to be kind and compassionate to themselves and
others. They are able to give from a place of joy rather than of obligation or
because of what they expect to get in return. They don’t need to keep score. They
also recognize that there are times when they must say “No,” and they do so without
feeling guilty. They realize that their happiness is the RESULT of their caring
behavior, not the CAUSE of it.
Courage
There is a lot of power in acting with courage. Happy Energy people
realize that playing it safe actually makes them unhappy, so they choose to push
their humanness and stretch their courageous muscles. Even though it might be
difficult at the time, they trust that the payoff will be worth it, so they keep going for
the new and look for ways to take beneficial risks. They also recognize that
everyone in their life might not support this courageous behavior. They’re ok with
that. Happy people recognize that another’s reaction is really about that other
person.
Receiving
If you really want a change to happen in your life, you have to be able to receive
it.Happy Energy people realize this and embrace when they are given
something instead of poo-pooing it away (Oh, really, it was nothing.), not taking
credit when it is given (I hardly did a thing; Julie’s really the creative one) or worse,
right-out refusing (This old thing? It cost under $2.00). This goes for everything
from compliments to gifts to opportunities. A Happy Energy person knows that they
are worth all the good that comes their way and that by receiving good (over bad),
they have more to pass on to others.
Appreciation
A Gratitude Attitude brings blessings. Happy Energy people often express
appreciation for the everyday things in their lives - the beauty of nature (something
as simple as the sun), the food they eat (no use in beating yourself up about your
food), all the good things … I encourage you to make a list. I’ll bet you’ll be
surprised at how much you have that you truly appreciate. Make the list and check-
in to see if you feel lighter … and happier.
No matter what we have going on in our lives, we always have the choice to
choose happiness. I used to get so angry when I would hear things like that -
don’t tell me to be happy, I’m miserable. Then one day, things were so bad I figured
I had to start somewhere, so I chose to just take 5 seconds to think about
something that made me happy. I was floored by the results. You can be, too.
Create true authentic happiness for yourself and watch the change in your energy 5
seconds at a time.
Energy Specialist Heather M. Dominick, “The Energy Expert,” is
author of the information packed ‘EnergyRICH Lifestyle’ weekly ezine. If you’re
ready to jump- start your energy, make effective changes, and have more fun
in your life, get your FREE subscription and more EnergyRICH Tips at
http://www.individual-health.net..
Once you’ve been hired to do a job, particularly if it’s a well paid and/or high-flying job, you’re supposed to know everything, be able to handle everything with ease, deal with other people’s problems and in general be super-person. Right? Well, not exactly.
There are loads of people who get hired for, or promoted to, really good jobs because of the skills and capabilities they have demonstrated. Yet six months later they are floundering and don’t appear to be up to it all.
You may be one of those people.
It’s not unusual for people, even at the beginning of their careers, to feel they are supposed to know more and be able to do more than they are currently able to. A common and recurrent nightmare is the feeling that somehow they will be ‘found out’ as not being up to the job and thrown out on their ear.
What can get left out when people are hired for a job - wherever they are on the career ladder - is that they will need some form of guidance and support along the way. Some companies know this and part of their employee care is to have a coaching and/or mentoring programme in place. Unfortunately, many do not.
For people who do work for such a company, it may feel uncomfortable or embarrassing asking for support internally, and so they go without. This is where the ‘I should know it all already’ belief kicks in, and the offers of coaching or mentoring go unheeded because:
“I’ll look weak.”
“I won’t want people to know I’ve asked for help.”
“My staff won’t respect me if they know I’m seeing someone.”
“It’s counselling isn’t it - I don’t need counselling.”
“I think it’s great our company has this terrific programme, I’ll recommend it to my staff - not my kind of thing really.”
“If they thought I needed coaching I wouldn’t have been hired in the first place.”
“They must think I’m not doing so well if they think I need coaching.”
And so on.
Let’s take David Beckham (we know, we know, there’s plenty of us who’d like to take David Beckham), who obviously got hired for his manifest talent but also his potential. He brought a lot of his innate ability with him, but what has developed his talent has been careful, consistent and constant coaching. This has been both for his skill as a footballer and his maturity as a human being. He didn’t start out as England’s Captain, but got there through his hard work and the hard work of many others. No embarrassment there in having coaching.
See, if you were a sports person, you’d know what to do: you’d have a coach who’d work with you on your fitness, your training and eating regimens, your attitude, your goals. You’d be supported by someone who had your best interests as a priority. You wouldn’t even question that coaching was part of the deal; it would be integral to your development.
Coaches help us get better at what we already do.
All of us need guidance and motivation at different times in our lives: someone to ‘coach’ us into the corporate equivalent of swimming those extra laps or helping us make those crucial adjustments to our golf swing.
Good coaching is unbiased, objective support that sees and identifies the best of your qualities and abilities and helps you develop them; it sees and identifies which hurdles are hard to get over and finds ways to get over them or circumvent them when appropriate. Good coaching comes from someone on the sidelines who has your best interests as a priority.
A coach or mentor is a guide; an advisor, someone on your side; loyal, interested, trusted and most importantly, experienced in areas that you may not be.
This person can be someone senior to you or on an equal footing, but who helps steer your career through both the good and the difficult times. They provide motivation and inspiration and help you find ways to deal with immediate difficulties as well as helping you plan a long-term career strategy.
That all makes sense, doesn’t it?
So why don’t more people have coaches and mentors? Why don’t people just see it as ‘normal’ and expected, rather than something out of the ordinary?
Indeed, many companies tend to call us in when someone is on their knees, gasping for breath and going down for the third time, to mix a few metaphors. Not at the beginning of their career, or when they’ve got promotion. No, only when they can’t possibly hide for one minute more that they are in trouble, might they moot that a spot of help might possibly be OK.
What a shame.
It is possible for all that floundering to be avoided.
This is how it could work. When you go for a new job or get promotion ask for coaching up front, as part of your package. At the moment you’ve been given a new project or extra responsibilities, make sure you let people know that in turn you expect extra support. During your next appraisal, put coaching and mentoring support high on your agenda.
What you’re looking to do with any of these suggestions is to normalise the idea of mentoring and coaching; almost to assume that ‘of course coaching is part of the deal’ not something you need only when there are no options left.
You see, all the ‘big people’ have someone around. Remember that old phrase: “Behind every successful man, you’ll find a good woman”? The truth is, behind every successful person, you’ll usually find a coach, mentor, counsellor/therapist, ‘guru’ or wise person. Why? Because the smart ones know that good support just makes life a whole lot easier.
Where do I begin?
First off, if you work for a company that doesn’t have a coaching/mentoring programme, you’re going to have to create one. Here’s how you can go about doing that.
Look around for someone senior, who’s doing what you’d like to be doing and cultivate them: ask their opinion and advice a lot; pay attention to the things they do and give them lots of acknowledgement for their successes; ask to pick their brain and don’t be shy about letting them know you admire their work.
If it’s genuine it won’t come across as toadying!
Be up front about asking for formal and informal appraisals and feedback on your work from a number of people.
This person may not technically be called a coach, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use them as if they were.
Now, whether you’re lucky enough to work for a company that has a coaching/mentoring programme, or you find you have to create one, here are some tips on how to make the relationship work well.
What to look for
Try not to get too hung up on hierarchy and where your prospective coach/mentor sits within the company. What you want is someone who:
* knows what they’re doing
* has a broad experience and knows the ins and outs of the organisation
* has a good understanding of your role
* has good listening skills
* will make time to support you
* makes you feel as though you’ll learn lots from them
* mentors other people
Compatibility
On top of all that you do need to like the person who’s going to work with you. Some companies assign someone right at the outset, and others let the employee choose if possible. For the relationship to work you do need to get along with each other; otherwise it becomes a duty, a ‘going through the motions’, rather than a mutually enjoyable process.
Wisdom doesn’t always come with age or seniority. Having said that, try not to be too intimidated if you do end up working with someone very senior. It might help to remember that mentoring is a two-way process and your coach/mentor will be getting a lot out of the relationship as well.
Set Boundaries
Set really clear parameters at the beginning. How often you’ll meet, for how long. We recommend that in the initial stages you keep things relatively formal, in the sense of regularly scheduled meetings for at least 30 minutes each, or longer. After that you can negotiate whether to keep a formal structure or to make it more ad hoc, on a needs basis.
The point isn’t the frequency, but what you want to get out of the sessions.
Identify Needs
That’s the next crucial bit: what you want. It helps for you to be as clear as possible so your coach knows how best to support you. It’s OK to have a long list of questions, concerns, issues, doubts, etc. The one thing you don’t want to do is pretend you know more than you do. That would defeat the whole purpose, and yet we’ve seen this happen time and time again.
People don’t want to appear too vulnerable or out of their depth, so they fake it - even to their mentors. Not a good idea.
Where the clarity is important is in identifying what’s making you feel out of your depth:
Are there additional skills you need?
Have you been given a new challenge that feels daunting and you don’t know where to begin?
Are you avoiding conflict with someone so things remain unresolved?
Are you afraid to speak your mind for fear of appearing ignorant and humiliating yourself?
Does it feel as though you don’t have enough time?
Are you, indeed, afraid of being ‘found out’?
You know how some managers say, “Bring me solutions, not problems.” With a coach you can bring them all the problems you’ve got! Then between the two of you, you can discover some solutions.
Own Up
It really is all right to make mistakes. You can’t and won’t know it all and you will screw up every once in a while - everyone does. When you do, try not to make excuses, point the finger of blame at someone else, sweep it under the carpet and hope it will resolve itself on all its own or justify your own behaviour.
Humility and maturity go hand in hand. When something goes awry, take responsibility for what went wrong and use your coach/mentor to debrief. Let them offer suggestions as to what you might have done differently and what you could do now to get things back on course.
Constructive Complaining
One thing we don’t think is a good idea is to ask, or expect, your coach/mentor to gossip or agree with you just how awful someone else is. Yes, their job may be to be on your side, but not to take sides. Don’t look to them to encourage ’stirring’ or ‘colluding’. That simply doesn’t help create solutions.
It’s fine, of course, to have a good old moan, and to off-load some of your gripes and annoyances. Just don’t expect lots of, “Well, everyone thinks so and so is a total waste of space, so you’re not alone.”
What both your aim needs to be, is to actively find ways to resolve any difficulties or differences you are having, not to feed the problem.
Dreams and Aspirations
Be bold! Don’t necessarily wait for someone else to say, “You know, you’d probably make a good manager/director/team leader/etc.” If that’s something you want, one of the best uses of a coach is to let them know. It’s thrilling to help someone plan an exciting and motivating strategy to develop their career and watch them achieve it.
Jo Ellen and Robin run Impact Factory a training company who provide Coaching and Mentoring, Public Speaking, Presentation Skills, Communications Training, Leadership Development, and Executive Coaching for Individuals.
