Marriages are taken for granted. After the honeymoon period is over, couples co exist. Most of the time without any charm in their married life. Everything becomes a routine- eating, sleeping, everything becomes highly predictable and dull. If kids arrive in the life of a married couple, which they invariably do, the attention shifts more to upbringing of the children.
What happened to the early romance? Why does a marriage kill a perfect romance? Why do people break up and divorce each other so soon after the marriage? What happens in the period of their married life that brings it to either a dull existence or an end?
The very first change that can be noticed is -care. Yes, before marriage, a partner is more worried about how to take care of the other partner. After marriage it is the other way round. Why are you not paying any attention to my needs? Why do you not care for me? Why are you acting so selfishly? Why is your work more important than me? Why can you not wash the dishes alone? Yes, I agree that you need a holiday badly,but where is the money? Accusations of different types fly around and make a hell of what was heavenly togetherness earlier.
Keeping one’s married life happy is very essential. Complaining about the partner will not help, but understanding each other’s needs and trying to fulfill them will. Partners need to go back in life and look for that spark that kindled the love in the first place. What did you admire in your partner before marriage? Do you still admire that or not? What did you like before that you hate now? Reflect. Go back and think. Bring that charm back. Complimenting each other for the smallest act, expressing happiness of living together, letting the partner know how much you value her/him and so many small things that make the other partner happy must be done daily.
Why ignore your husband or wife and feel envious about other couples. Why not create a happy life that others envy? Why not make the other partner feel needed and good at all the times. Why not forgive even a big blunder? Why not put yourself in your partner’s shoes and think about the life he/she is living. Why not bring the romance back by going for candle light dinners, or watching the sunset together? Let the sun set, but keep your marriage happy.
Have you ever thought of sending eCards or E-Greetings to each other everyday? They cost nothing most of the times, but for a minute. But imagine the joy of the recipient. Why not make your partner happy with such cards daily? Here are few that can be sent daily.
Love Ecard- Yo u Give Me Life
Love Ecard- Lo ve Overflows
Love Ecard- I Truly Live Now
Love Ecard- Y ou Are So Wonderful
Love Ecard- Every Breath For You
Love Ecard- I Belong To You
Love Ecard- You Make Me Love Myself
Mort Katz once said that “Love is its own aphrodisiac and is the main ingredient for lasting sex.” If you’ve got love and you’re working on the romance, your own incredible love affair with your spouse is just waiting to break free! Do you know what turns your partner on? Are you aware of his or her most intimate, secret fantasies?
Most people make assumptions about what their spouse likes based on external factors like what partners in previous relationships liked or what the latest magazine article claims to work. Everyone likes something different and in the bedroom is no exception. Now is the time to learn about your spouse, what you both want in the bedroom and what works for both of you as a couple.
Visit some of the most popular lingerie stores in your area together or browse web sites like Victoria’s Secret or Frederick’s of Hollywood. You can even request catalogs to be delivered to your home so that you can ’shop’ together at your leisure. Have him mark off what he finds exciting and arousing. Have her mark off what she finds exciting and arousing. Both should go through the catalog or shop together and make note of what they both agree on.
Then both spouses should put all of their preconceived ideas and judgements aside as they explore possibilities with and for each other. To begin with, wives should try something incredibly simple yet incredibly sexy like laying on a bed of black sheets while wearing white lingerie or the other way around. That is a wonderful starting point and safe way to open up about what you both enjoy in the bedroom.
Look into what is considered to be an aphrodisiac and try some things out together. An aphrodisiac is anything like a smell, drug, food, drink or even flower that some say increase or stimulates sexual desire. While scientific evidence to back the actual effectiveness of aphrodisiacs is lacking, some couples find excitement simply in trying new things. Some of the most common things people claim to have an aphrodisiac affect include hot, sweat producing spices, oysters, wasabi, caviar reinforced by vodka, ginseng, yohimbe and the scents of musk, patchouli and vanilla. Two flowers that are thought to be related to sex enhancement are the Hibiscus and Cala Lilies.
If you and your spouse have a difficult time sitting down and telling each other about your sexual fantasies, try making a game out of it. Get a large, empty jar and fill it with 25 of your most intimate sexual fantasies. You can make them anything that has to with your fulfillment, your spouse’s fulfillment or both of your fulfillment. Again, setting all inhibitions and judgements aside, you both get to pick a single fantasy each week that should be fulfilled as a couple. It is up to both of you if you feel the need to set particular rules and/or boundaries. Of course, the game can always change as you both grow more comfortable with each other and learn how much fun and fulfilling being intimate with your own spouse can be.